Update your personal values accordingly.

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Sometimes, we are forced to do something at work we don’t really want to do.

Then, there are also those times when we feel the need to do something we shouldn’t do.

In those situations, who do you listen to?

The voice that goes against your work values?

Or the voice that aligns with your work values?

I found myself in those situations where I had the dilemma of either following what I think is right or doing what feels unethical…but it makes sense.

It’s a tricky situation to be in. It would be nice if there were rules written…

Don’t let your ego get in the way

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Whenever I screw up, I mentally punish myself for being so stupid.

Then I question my ability to get the job done. I wonder, “How the hell did I miss that?”

Then I start feeling like a fraud. I worry about others finding out that I’m not as good as they think — that I don’t live up to the reputation I’m known for.

This series of thoughts is known as the “Imposter Syndrome”. It’s when we think about things that trigger self-doubt. But wait…it gets worse.

When you doubt yourself, others will notice and will do the same thing…

Forgive yourself but do not forget.

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Every year, we are given this training on preserving work equality and discourage discrimination towards others.

While I certainly do not object to that, I also admit that it made me super careful about what I say or how I say things at work. Work conversations became less fun. The controlled environment limits the type of jokes you’re allowed to say.

This is probably the reason why comedians are the most common target of cancel culture. They say something offensive, and boom! You’re out of the game!

Now, I can empathize because I find offensive jokes to be funny. The…

The more you understand, the more qualified you are at solving the problem.

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When a problem shows up, I always feel the urge to provide smart solutions to solve it.

Not sure if this is a “guy thing” but doing so makes me feel smart. It’s egotistic…but it’s the real intent behind unsolicited advice. I know you know people who are not qualified to give advice — simply because they don’t understand the full story.

Some give out advice to tell themselves they are smart or good people. Then, there are the few who genuinely want to help. But regardless of the intent, their advice typically does not address the real problem. …

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“Don’t work hard, work smart”, says the production worker after I applauded him for doing something “smart”.

He initially introduced to me the idea of getting the same result with less effort.

You may not be a productivity nut but I’m sure you’ve operated under the “Don’t work hard, work smart” motto in a similar way, shape or form. It carries the essence of optimization. I was a big fan back then but now I’ve gone 180.

Today, everyone says it as if “working hard” is dumb.

This reminds me of the discussion I had with a coworker. I initiated…

Learn as much as you can. Apply accordingly.

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“So you hate your 9–5 job? Start your own business. Be your own boss.”

That’s the typical premise for getting you to consider starting a business on the side.

However, I don’t hate my job but I still want to earn money on the side. But my reason for doing it has less to do with replacing my 9–5 job’s income. I do it for the challenge of finding something I love doing that others would happily pay for.

Now, that’s a super hard task. …

Scams are typically solutions that get us what we want with the least amount of effort.

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I’ve been watching a lot of Coffeezilla lately. His mission is to expose the get-rich-quick schemes of the internet.

I’m also subscribed to McDojoLife on Instagram. He exposes fake martial artists.

Back then, I also listened a lot to The Mating Grounds Podcast. They talked about how the pick-up artist communities screw up your ability to have empathy towards women.

Now, what is it about these platforms that got me hooked?

They played with my curiosity by exposing the “truth”. It’s like watching the Truman Show but in actual life. …

Why sign up for multiple newsletters when you only need 2?

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There are hundreds of ideas out there on how to create wealth. Everyone would’ve been rich by now if everyone took action and followed them. But almost all the time, they stay as ideas — we don’t do anything with them. Why is that?

Then there are those “earn passive income without any experience” kind of ventures that tempts us to give it a try. While most of us avoid claims that are too good to be true, there are others who get suckered into it. Perhaps there are salespeople out there who can sell you products you don’t need…

Avoid the shortcuts. Do the work.

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Who doesn’t want to make extra dollars without really doing anything (aka passive income)?

You’ve seen those ads on YouTube about free courses on making money online that do not require a lot of effort or experience. I’m sure you could sniff out the scammy-ness of the ads and so you’d click “Skip It” and move on with that video you really wanted to watch.

But sometimes, curiosity and desperation can get to you. Why not try it? It’s free. What do you have to lose right? So, I decided to click on one of them.

And guess what? I…

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Life insurance agents come at you with solutions for every objection you can think of.

This might be a reason why we avoid getting engaged by them. We are afraid we might get sucked in and duped into buying something we will regret later.

RJ Reyes

An office employee who talks about how to stand out at work. Other times — on personal finance. Sometimes — on creating another source of income.

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